On The Real Tip: Can You Have The Abortion Talk With Your Partner/ Lover?
Okay so let’s have a little chat ladies…
The other day I was having a little discussion with my friends at a local, hole in the wall, Taco bar. Amongst our happy hour special drinks, and our soft taco’s, was the popular topic of any discussion…sex. Of course, each of us enjoyed talking about our past experience, our current ones, and what we’d like to see and want in the future, when it comes to our sex lives. Somewhere deep into the conversation though, the ‘A’ word was brought up….no and it was not ‘Anal,’ that was last week’s discussion if you want to check that out. No my darlings, the other ‘A’ word….Abortion.
Let’s Talk About It
Given that this topic is on the controversial side, I’ll try to make this article as brief as I can. Not everyone takes this topic very well. My friend Nora, ( of course that’s not her real name, but for privacy purposes, and of course, out of respect, it’s better to keep her, and my other friends names on the down low.) decided to ask my other friend Cory, his opinion on a question that was not only related to the topic of discussion, but was also a situation that Nora encountered with some guy, she was messing around with. The question to Cory that was asked was, after jokingly telling a girl that he might not pull out next time if they have sex again, would he be offended if the girl replies she would end up going to the ‘ Chop Shop’, indicating she will end up getting an abortion? Cory immediately scrunched up his face at this, and agreed that he would be offended.
Now before you go agreeing with Cory on being offended by that statement, here’s what you should know, Nora and the guy she was messing with, were NOT in a relationship. They had just started out getting to know each other, and the guy she was talking to, was a little bit ‘sprung’ and sort of taking things a bit too fast with her. Not only that, but Nora already has a child with someone else. So it wasn’t anything against the guy, but being that Nora has went through child birth already, and is still at the beginning of starting a successful life for herself, another child would probably get in the way of that. Of course that wasn’t just the reason why Cory said he’d be offended though. He stated, that he would also feel some type of way, if she did it without even talking to him about.
Here’s The Issue
I felt like abortion shouldn’t be a problem seeing as though, it’s her body. The guy shouldn’t feel entitled to anything unless you both are in a serious relationship, then obviously, a serious discussion needs to take place on whether it is the right choice, but at the end of the day, I feel like it will always comedown to the woman’s choice. I understand Cory’s dismay on the matter as far as knowing you might have a baby, only for it to be taken away from you, but it is no where near a baby yet, and that’s what gets people confused. It’s still a fetus, it hasn’t developed hands or eyes. I feel like if you are in that early stage, and you are considering abortion, you shouldn’t feel like your killing a life when it hasn’t become anything yet. In Nora’s case though, the way she said it to the guy she was talking to, was a bit rough, and that was probably why he took offense to it. But here’s my question, if you did end up getting pregnant and were considering abortion, would you tell your partner, or would you just go through with it without telling them?
With Georgia, Ohio, Mississippi, Kentucky and now Alabama, enacting the laws that severely restricts access to abortion, this makes it much harder on women to live their own lives. You have a government full of men stating how a woman should handle their body. Why should we as women obey? Why should we yield, and what does aborting a fetus have to do with the livelihood of a man? Cory stated that if Nora was his girl and she did that, he’d let her go through with it, but would never mess with her again. I don’t get it though, No offense to Cory but, he’s not the one who would be going through the process of a pregnancy, so honestly, I felt like his opinion was invalid . I believe in a serious situation like that, in every relationship, a hookup, you should tell the person anyway. Don’t just make the choice without saying anything to them, they do have the right to know, but as for what comes next, that is on you and your partner. Talk it out, but see what works best for YOU. Like I said, at the end of the day, it’s YOUR BODY, you should decide .
What do you guys think about Nora and Cory’s debate? Do you agree or disagree? What do you think about the Abortion talk? How would you handle the situation? Comment Below!
Until Next Time!