So I Tried The Ben Wa Balls For The First Time...And...Well...
Okay so before I go straight into this, let’s get one thing clear. I am not new to the sex game. Obviously, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this article. Just like my favorite character Samantha, from “Sex In The City”, I am a ‘Try-sexual'. For those of you confused by that term, it only means a person who will try anything sexual once …. or in my case, if I really enjoy it, possibly three more times. I have always considered trying out the Ben Wa Balls or Kegel Balls, ever since I saw that scene from “50 Shades Of Grey”, when Christian introduces a wide-eyed Anastasia Steele to the pleasures of Ben Wa Balls, and my girl couldn’t keep her face straight, or her ass still at that dinner party the entire night. When it was time to remove them and have sex, Anastasia was in a whole different level of pleasure. I mean, one can only assume that’s how she felt, from the look on her face during that scene. Anyway, let’s start off with the basics.
What Are Ben Wa Balls?
Ben Wa Balls are weighted balls meant to be worn inside the vagina. They are mainly used to train the pelvic muscles, for most people, Ben Wa Balls are used to increase sexual intensity. They are technically supposed to be used before penetration, or they can be used while inside of you while you masturbate. Generally it teaches your pelvic muscles to hold them in place while tightening your muscles in the process. Ben Wa Balls , from what I was told, have a lot of different names such as, kegel balls, love balls or smart balls.
So just so you know, before writing this piece, I originally planned to try out the Ben Wa Balls, so the first place that came to mind to buy them was my local sex store, Romantic Depot, you know, the one in the TV commercials that comes on late at night , where Cardi B’s voice is heard loud and clear especially when she shouts out if you mention her name, you get a free toy. Of course I never went through with it, to me it was unnecessary. I decided to make a pit stop at the store after work. Now walking into this particular sex store wasn’t surprising to me. I expected to see lots of sex toys and plastic penises in my face, I guess I was more surprised at the fact that there were so many different options, toys and different flavor lubrications, and sex decorations to choose from, it was a little overwhelming. As I walked around, I had a clear image in mind of what I wanted, but I was still curious to look at other things. Eventually, a store clerk by the name of Shanè noticed my curious expressions. Shanè was a small petite woman, with blonde curly hair. As she approached me with a smile, she asked what I was interested in, and I told her my fascination with the Ben Wa Balls. At that moment, Shanè showed me every Ben Wa Ball/ Kegel balls they had in the store from metal balls, to vibrating ones, it was quite a sight to see. Now in my head, I was hoping to see the balls similar to what Anastasia had in the movie. I never realized there would be so many different balls, and different shapes and sizes. Shanè stated that although Ben Wa Balls are meant for a specific purpose, you really need to make sure which ones are meant for you, especially if you are a beginner. She mentioned first timers should start off with larger balls then smaller ones, so that you can teach the vagina to hold on to lager balls and focus on contracting them, rather than going for smaller balls where it might be difficult to hold on to, and might not serve the purpose of what they are originally intended .
I finally found the ones that were interesting to me and let me tell you there was a lot of options for me to choose from (There were these vibrating kegel balls that I could not stop looking at). I happily made my purchase (The picture above is the kegel balls I purchased) and made my way home. The next day I decided to try them out. Now, when you use Ben Wa Balls/ Kegel Balls you are generally suppose to leave them in for about six hours. Any longer than that, and you might overexert your pelvic floor muscles. Before insertion, I cleaned my Ben Wa Balls with warm water and un-fragrance soap and slipped them in. At first I wasn’t really feeling the sensual-sexual part, but I definitely knew there was something up there, and that I was putting my pelvic muscles to work. It wasn’t uncomfortable or anything like that, but I could’t really ignore the fact that I had a whole object in my vagina. When I laughed, coughed or sat down it was quite ticklish and I felt the balls sort of move around, giving off mini vibrations. Either way, I went about my day pretty normal, and I did feel like my vagina muscles were working all day to hold them in.
Would I Use Them Again?
I most certainly will use them again. Especially when I feel like I haven’t used them to their full potential. I’m thinking about setting up a date between me and my boy toy, and putting this toy to work. Besides, the first time was a test run, and now that I know how they feel inside of me, I figure it will be quite the experience when used the sexual way. I’m always up for new experiences and in the name of research, why not experience something you love doing? I love my Ben Wa Balls, and I can’t wait to use them again!
Until Next Time!